There is a serious misconception people have about children. This whole notion of unconditional love is wrong. Children do not love. They do not know how to love. They must learn how to love or they will not. You cannot have children and expect to be loved unless you are able to love them.

I know this because I watch my cats and their varying degree of affection toward me. I feel great love toward them, yet they cannot fully love me because they do not have trust. After trust, love. I do not ever expect them to just love me. They will never just choose to do so before they trust me. And for them to be able to trust me, I must show unconditional love toward them.

This is how it works.

This is why I am afraid I will not have unconditional love for my children.